Grief Map

Sarah Hahn Campbell

Grief Map by Sarah Hahn Campbell

The Hellum and Neal Series in LGBTQIA+ Literature

Release Date: June 13, 2017

Print ISBN: 978-1-942083-50-4

EPUB ISBN: 978-1-942083-53-5

Kindle ISBN: 978-1-942083-51-1

PDF ISBN: 978-1-942083-52-8

Brain Mill Press offers Grief Map in ebook and in a limited fine first edition printing of signed, numbered paperbacks. Ebook buyers receive access to MOBI (Kindle), EPUB, and PDF files, offered without DRM restrictions. Print book buyers receive a physical copy of the book and access to the ebook files in all formats.

“Many have written about grief, but not like this. Sarah Hahn Campbell’s Grief Map is absolutely astonishing — in intimacy, extrapolation, and even healing. It is not composed of ‘however many stages,’ not a ‘how to’ or recovery text. Rather, it is one woman’s unique and deeply moving map of joy, loss, and deciding to continue living. I have never read anything even remotely like it, and enthusiastically recommend it.”

—Margaret Randall, poet/writer

“Maybe my map will help a little. If only to comfort, to say: someone else visited this place; someone else survived to make this map.”

When Sarah Hahn Campbell learned of the sudden and inexplicable death of her partner, Lia, she was thousands of miles away from the Alaska town where they made a life together. Lia’s mental deterioration had forced her to flee to protect her daughter’s safety and her own emotional well-being — but she never stopped loving Lia, never believed their relationship over. The unexpected news of Lia’s death plunged her into terrible grief, guilt, and self-doubt, raising painful questions she couldn’t find the answers to.

Grief Map is a beautiful and unflinchingly honest record of the aftermath, a lyrical guide to her journey in the landscape of love through loss and beyond, to the rediscovery of hope and the possibility of happiness. With passion and fearless dedication, Campbell explores the history of her relationship, her discovery of lesbian identity, and the innumerable gifts and hardships of love to offer an account that is part memoir, part poetry, part elegy — a map that is universal, and will speak to anyone who has loved.

About the Author

Sarah Hahn Campbell is a lesbian essayist and novelist who lives in Denver, Colorado, where she teaches high school English and parents a beautiful little girl with her wife, Meredith. Campbell has published work in a variety of publications, including CurveRoom MagazineSinister WisdomIris Brown Lit Mag, and Adoptive Families MagazineHer novella, The Beginning of Us, came out in January 2014 from Riptide. Originally from a farm in eastern Iowa, she holds an MFA in Creative Writing from Naropa University.

About the Art

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The cover of Grief Map features an original oil painting by Erika Craig titled “The Return” (36″ diameter circular canvas, 2009).

Erika CraigErika Craig received her bachelor’s degree in art at California State University Channel Islands in 2012, and she studied abroad in Paris. Despite dealing with chronic pain which has limited the use of her hands, painting remains a vital personal outlet for her.

Craig paints figures underwater, immersing her subjects in their surroundings. A person’s reflection in water is a constantly changing self, a distorted image with many sides. Near the surface, the familiar blends into the unknown. Color and shape break down. Things that seem separate become entwined. Craig’s work deals with realism and abstraction, boundaries and potential, the hidden subconscious and expanding consciousness.

Erika is a winner of the Driftless Unsolicited Cover Art Contest.

The Fine First Edition

The fine first edition of Grief Map was produced on seventy-pound paper stock in a 5.5 x 8.5″ trim size. Each copy in this fifty-copy limited edition is signed by the author and numbered. The edition features Erika Craig’s cover artwork and interior color pages.

Excerpt

An excerpt from Grief Map

by Sarah Hahn Campbell

(c) Sarah Hahn Campbell, 2017. All rights reserved.

The Map

The words of the autopsy report used to smolder and smoke in my brain. The weight of her heart. The weight of her brain. The mystery of the contusions. How well I know the “irregular scar on the right volar wrist,” which was the time she was rushing, as usual, and cut her wrist on the jagged edge of an open tin can. The ER doctor thought she’d attempted suicide. She was married to a man, then. So was I.

Lia was my _____, and she died in 2011. The fact of her death is clear. Who she was to me is not. She was my professor and my mentor, and then she was my colleague, and then she was also my lover, and then she was my roommate. Or she was my partner. She never liked the words “girlfriend” or “wife.” They frightened her.

When I try to organize this story, it tangles into more knots. I used to think of it as “our” story, until I began to understand it was really her story and my story, two parallel streams of lives that braided for a little while and then diverged. And hers? It seeped beneath the surface. It evaporated and became air. It spread thin until the soil and the plants absorbed it. It didn’t stop. That’s what I know, now, about our lives. Or what I think I know.

There was a time when all I could think about was death. Her death. My responsibility for her death. My death. Everyone’s deaths. There was a time when I walked down the halls of the high school where I taught and death flashed in every teenage face I saw. Each of you will die. If she could die, at forty-two, then no one was safe. Her death ripped open reality: I saw its truth, and I grew pale with it.

The autopsy report was my own. How much would my brain weigh, when it was weighed? Which scars would they record? The one on my index finger, from the late night when Erin and I were doing dishes in her New Jersey apartment drunk, and I grasped a broken wine glass? Would the autopsy report on the tattoo on my lower back, the belly button ring at my navel? Would my stomach also contain “brown liquid material”? And how old would I be? How long would I last in this life?

Slowly, the gaping truth faded. I healed enough to forget the horror a little. It’s been four years since Lia died. When I wake in the mornings now, I notice the light. I’ll die someday, but later. I have a good life to live first.

But I still need to map the journey I took through grief. A map labels landmarks with the opinions of the cartographer, it records distances and sizes, it marks routes and dangers. Maybe someone who needs it will fold this map into a neat square, store it in her pocket, pull it out at each trail juncture that confuses her, and in the open spaces that seem to have no trail at all. She’ll learn maps are worthless in the dark and in the fog, but maybe my map will help a little. If only to comfort, to say: someone else visited this place; someone else survived to make this map.

Once, when I was nineteen, I hiked one hundred miles across northern Scotland alone, including a climb up Ben Lomond. The fog on the frigid March day I climbed that mountain was so thick I lost sight of Loch Lomond and the surrounding valleys within minutes of climbing, and my boots kept slipping on the ice-covered rocks. Then, all of a sudden, the fog thickened to a blizzard: a whiteout. I could not even see my hands in front of my face. The wind roared and whistled off the edge of a cliff somewhere, and snow was falling so fast it covered my boots where I stood. I couldn’t keep climbing up, since I didn’t know where the cliffs were. The ice was too treacherous for me to descend. The temperature dropped, and I shivered in my thin yellow rain jacket. No one knew exactly where I was. Terrified, I sank onto a boulder and burst into tears. A little while later, I wrote a shaky letter to my family, my teeth chattering. I told them I loved them and was sorry I’d been a fool. I ate my Snickers bar and hugged myself, waiting for the sleepiness literature promises as the first sign of death from hypothermia.

Instead, after a long time, the whiteness seemed to lift a little, and I noticed for the first time a set of footprints in the snow. They appeared to begin at my boulder and lead up the mountain. I set my feet in them (they were large, a man’s) and followed them safely to the summit and the wide and well-marked “tourist trail” back down to Loch Lomond.

Those footprints saved my life.

Who knows? Maybe this map of words I’ve made will be footprints for some other grieving person. Maybe this map will save someone else’s life.

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